Most long-term couples will, at some stage, experience communication difficulties or periods of anger, conflict, or mistrust. This can lead to repeated arguments, feelings of resentment and loss of the couple’s trust, intimacy and sex life. There are many reasons why a couple may decide to come to relationship counselling such as:
• Feelings of drifting apart
• Becoming parents
• The impact of addictions
• Financial stress
• Housework and roles
What Happens in Relationship Counselling?
Relationship counselling aims to help couples find new ways to communicate with each other to resolve their problems and achieve their goals. A relationship counsellor will listen to each partner’s view on their relationship and what they perceive to be the stressor in the relationship. The relationship counsellor will also highlight any misunderstandings which might be re-occurring due to the couple’s current communication methods and resolution methods. In this way, the counsellor supports couples in finding new strategies to improve communication and facilitate conflict resolution. The active participation of each partner is central to the success of relationship therapy.
Life often throws up situations or experiences which cause us stress and pain. How we deal with these situations or experiences can makes a huge difference between feeling fulfilled and happy or very stressed and sad with our life.
Individual counselling helps you talk about these painful/stressful situations and/or experiences that are troubling you. It allows you to talk about your thoughts, feelings and behaviours with a professional in a safe confidential space and to explore openly the reality of your life and relationships. Sometimes we need to find someone we can trust enough to hear our fears and anxieties. Sessions are client lead and only go at the pace set by you where the counsellor will facilitate you to achieve your goals and the changes you would like to make in your life. Barriers are confronted in therapy that interrupt our emotional and mental well-being, positive thinking and feelings should improve such as love, compassion, joy, hope, gratitude, kindness and confidence.
So whether they be difficulties arising out of;
• Difficulties in relationships.
• Low self-esteem.
• Abuse Trauma
I am committed to providing you with the opportunity to find some resolution to your problems by offering counselling in a safe and comfortable environment.
If you are interested please contact me for an initial consultation, where we can discuss what form of therapy is best for you.
Child and Adolescent Counselling
There are various ways counselling can encourage young people to express their feeling around whatever difficulty they might be experiencing in their lives. For example, reading stories and using the characters to explore feelings that can arise from different situations can be extremely productive. Other methods used to give the counsellor an insight into the child’s world are art, drawing, drama and talking.
Benefits of Child/Adolescent Counselling
Children's counselling aims to help children understand their emotions and solve their problems by learning new coping skills that help them make positive changes in their young lives. During a session children are encouraged while being supported by the counsellor to explore and express their feelings by using the methods above.
Issues Covered in Counselling
• Poor Social Skills
• Low Self-Esteem
Counselling can help teens whose behaviours are potentially not safe or appropriate and may be threatening by exploring their thoughts and feeling in a safe place without judgement. Adolescent counselling uses the same methods that are mentioned in child counselling above. Counselling aims to provide support to the young person and work with the parents or guardians if necessary.
Issues Covered in Counselling
• Relationships with all family members, friends and teachers
• Low self-esteem and Confidence
• Bereavement Grief and Loss
• Self-Harm/Suicidal Ideation
• Alcohol and Drugs
• Abuse and Violence
Parent Adolescent Mediation Programme
Parents and Teens often find themselves in conflict with each other. Parent/ Teen Mediation is a helpful alternative that promotes healthy communication between Parents and Teens about their issues. Mediation offers a safe environment for communication with a structured process to promote a behavioural change from within the family members as well as an opportunity to ‘think outside of the box’ in terms of looking at creative problem solving and resolutions. Mediation is a very effective tool in Parent/ Teen communication. A mediator is a neutral third party, trained in communication and problem solving skills to encourage people in conflict to work out mutually agreeable solutions to their issues. The mediator works as advocate for all family members in conflict and assists the family members in validating their interests and needs and promoting understanding. The mediator challenges the parties in conflict to find creative ways to resolving their conflict that meets the interests and needs of all involved.